Following instructions is one of the most important social skills that children develop. Be it in the classroom, at home with the family or on the sporting field, a child who can listen, understand and then follow instructions and directions will go a long way.
Parents know that children don’t always follow directions so it is helpful to know how to teach kids so that they understand the why following directions is such an important skill to have.
Children don’t follow instructions for a number of reasons.
They may not be paying attention when the direction is given or they may not understand some or all of the language used. They might find it hard to see the reason for the direction or perhaps they find it hard to remember what is said or the order of things they are being asked to do.
It may just be that the directions were poor.
To help give your child the best chance of following directions, here are some things you can do.
Gain your child’s attention
To help, try to remove as many distractions as possible; use a signal if necessary rather than raising your voice; wait until your child or children have shown that they are attending; call your child or children by name; make eye-contact and don’t hand out equipment or other things before giving the direction.
Give clear instructions to follow
Organise your directions in a sequence to avoid confusion. Ensure that you give verbal instructions using your child’s vocabulary level not your own. Include no more than two directions at a time. Repeat directions as many times as necessary in a calm, positive manner and provide a physical demonstration if necessary. Routine directions can also be displayed visually.
Check for understanding
Ask your child or specific children to repeat the directions and/or demonstrate the directions.
You’ll be able to understand if there are issues following directions if those same directions aren’t clearly spoken back to you.
Monitor your child’s progress and provide feedback
Keep an eye on how quickly and efficiently your child or children complete set tasks. If in a classroom situation, keep moving around the classroom, providing continual feedback to groups and individual children.
Remediate if necessary
Even with the best directions, there may be children who don’t follow directions for some reason. Check to see who is having problems and repeat/reteach if necessary. Help your child complete directions if necessary. Learning Links can offer help in this space as well. We have a range of social skills programs that can help your child with understanding and following directions.
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